5 Steps To Being A Peaceful Mom
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We all want peace in our households
I think you can agree with me when there’s a sense of peace in our homes it can be so much more enjoyable. Lately, it has been challenging to find ways of being a peaceful mom. With a new baby this past year and two other kids who need my attention, it has not been very peaceful. Do you want to know how to be a peaceful mom, let me share what has worked for me after a lot of screaming and not so peaceful parenting.
First, let me share with you that I have a soon to be a 10-year old that seems to be throwing some disrespectful digs lately. My five steps to be a peaceful mom also applies to younger children too. I want a peaceful household as much as possible, but most of it will be from refraining from yelling and screaming.
Also, I want to share that there is a great bible verse that I go to for a reminder and that I speak out loud. One of them is Proverbs 18:21 ” Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” The passion translation says this, “Your words are so powerful that they will kill or give life, and the talkative person will reap the consequences.”
Here are the five steps to being a peaceful mom
1. Know what triggers you
Is it a messy house, or having to repeat yourself constantly. What peeves me is repeating myself and a messy house. I live with my inlaws, so I’m under more pressure to keep things tidy. Is it kids that are constantly bored or hungry? Not fitting in daily quiet time, not having me time? Learning what triggers you will help you be more peaceful when they happen again.
2. Know that its risky to scream at your kids
It is not the screaming itself that’s risky, because I can yell “I love you sweetie” as loud as I can, and it’s ok. But usually, when I shout at my kids, it’s because I’m angry. Screaming shows our kids that it’s ok to lose self-control and that’s not what we want to teach them. Our children are always watching us. Let us become more peaceful and not scream at our kids.
3. Know your kid’s emotions and behavior
Allow your kids to express their feelings. Let them be angry, get down on their level and talk through it. Most of the time if we show anger they will also react in anger. Sometimes my kids don’t want to talk through it, and it takes time. I give them their space and let them know when they’re ready; I am available to listen.
4. Remember you are the parent
When things get heated between my 10-year-old and I, sometimes I forget that I’m the parent, so I look like I’m having a tantrum too. I don’t recommend that. I am the grown up, so I need to show maturity towards my kids. We need to tell our children what we expect of them. Allow them to express themselves, but after that, the conversation should be over.
5. Be aware of when you are in PMS mode
Because we have that unfortunate visit from Aunt Flo (our period) each month, us moms can be extra tired and moody. If I don’t document this in my calendar, It comes to me as a surprise every month of why I’m so emotional and on edge. Then I can be prepared and more conscious of how I’m handling my emotions and reactions to daily craziness.
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It won’t be peaceful all the time
Life with kids or life without kids it will never be perfect and won’t always be peaceful. That’s just how life is, but we serve a God who supplies peace that surpasses all understanding – Philippians 4:7. All we have to do is ask for it, and you will be surprised at how God will supernaturally give you that very thing, peace not of this world but heaven. It is only God who can provide that level of peace because he is peace.
So in the times of craziness when things seem to be going haywire, know you can be a peaceful mom. I always apologize to my children for acting like a psycho when I lose control, but it only happens when I try to do things on my own and without God. Nothing goes smooth all the time, You are either getting ready to go through something, or going through something, or coming out of something. Its what you do in between that matters.
Thank you for taking the time out to read these five steps to being a peaceful mother. How do you keep yourself peaceful as a mom?